The foundation of the home is the marriage…

I highly recommend every woman read the book, Created to be a Help Meet , by Debi Pearl. The Lord led me to read this book during an extremely difficult time in my life. Through a series of events I was introduced to this book that forever changed the way I would view marriage and God’s plan for women. Wives, you will find refuge and strength in your husband, it is God’s plan. It doesn’t matter if he is Mr. Spirituality or if he is even saved. This book relates to every scenario and helps us to look inside ourselves and discover if, indeed, our motives and our ways are acceptable in the eyes of the Lord.

Debi Pearl has shared some awesome insight on the three types of men. You will be able to identify which type of man you are married to and you will learn what types of things you should and should not do to bless him. This book created for me a whole new way of thinking, and brought such a peace in the realization that I did not have to please everybody; pastors, teachers, relatives, or even friends. Instead, the one man that I needed to please is the man that I vowed I would love, honor, cherish and obey until my death. So many hurdles I had to overcome on the journey from being an overbearing, super spiritual wife who’s married to an undemanding, steady man. I am not here saying I am “there”, that I am Mrs. Perfect Wife now, but God has brought me very far. It has been line upon line, precept upon precept, here a little and there a little. I have read this book several times, and still pick it up just to check up on my line of thinking. I am not one of these follow behind and speak when asked to speak types of women, my husband would really hate that; but there is a difference between that and the desire to be a true blessing to him.

God created us with our own free will. He could have made us serve Him, but He wanted us to want to serve Him. Likewise, we should have a heart to bless our husband, not because we feel forced to do so, it should be our desire to honor him.

This year we celebrated our 20th anniversary! We are closer now than we have ever been, we love and appreciate each other more and understand each other better. God is so good and so merciful. He longs for us to prosper, He desires to bless us, let’s not tie His hands from doing that.

Father I pray right now that you would quicken, by your Spirit, every woman to receive what you would have for them to receive. I bind every spirit of confusion, fear and rebeliion; and loose a spirit of humility, love and hope. Lord, allow our ears to hear what you are saying to us. In the Name of Jesus I pray, Amen.